SELFLESSNESS’

Love is not always beautiful. sometimes love has thorns, rough edges, and sharp sides. sometimes love has flaws and imperfections. what makes love beautiful is the decision to choose love despite how imperfect it is. the decision to choose love through adversity. a love that never gives up, is always the best kind of love, and a lover that chooses love, is always the best kind of lover.

THOUGHTS.

He’s In Love With You
He sends you a message almost every morning.
When the first thought he has in the morning is you, that’s when you know that he’s in love.
Love is a form of obsession : it can be very healthy and incredibly rewarding. When you’ve infiltrated his psyche to the point that he wakes up thinking of you, that’s when you know you’ve got him. Of course, not all guys are open about the way they feel , some are even doing their best to resist the urge to contact you and wish you a good morning.
But when you’re in love, you have only so much self-control. Even the strongest-willed man will break a few times a week and show you that you’re his weakness.
He checks up on you randomly just to see how you’re doing.
People ( both men and women )are egocentric beings. Women do have a tendency to be more giving and caring, but generally speaking, we’re our own favorite people.
Until, that is, we fall in love.
Once you fall in love, you begin to care just as much about this other person as you do yourself. Men can be especially funny when it comes to checking up their girlfriends … some will try and play it off as if they don’t care as much as they really do , but if he’s hitting you up multiple times a week, for seemingly no reason at all, that’s when you know he’s hooked.
He doesn’t mind going out of his way to make your life easier.
He didn’t mind being worse off as long as she was better off.
He lights up when he sees you.
Love is happiness. Love is joy. Love is a mind filled with great memories and thoughts of a wonderful future together. You can’t possibly have all that on your mind and not smile.
If he grins from ear to ear , if his eyes light up at the sight of you -he’s in love with you. If he loves you, you’ll receive just about all of his attention.
He asks you about your day, and then he actually listens.
I remember being in love and caring so much about my Adrenaline’s day that I even wanted to know what he ate (to make sure she was staying healthy). That’s love.
When your man cares about you so much that he wants to know what’s going on in your life , in the finest of details ,wants to know what you did, what you saw, how you succeeded and failed, the adventures that you went on, he loves you. He wants to know about your day because he wants to be a part of it in some way or another , even though he wasn’t there by your side to actually experience it.
He asks you for your opinion.
And this isn’t just so that you feel like you’re giving your two cents. He wants to know your thoughts on the matter because he values your opinion. He values the way that you see the world and wants to make sure that his life aligns with yours as much as possible.
When a man loves you, he wants your input on his life because ‘ maybe without even knowing it , he is trying to merge his with yours. And what better way than to start seeing the world through your eyes?
He gives you the better half because he believes that you are his better half.
As kids, just about all of us were taught to share. But this isn’t just sharing; this is giving. To him, giving you more is just the same as if he were taking more himself. It’s better, even, because it makes him even happier.
He protects you. Or, at the very least, he tries.
He checks up on you. He is always there when you’re feeling down or under the weather.
When a man cares for you better than he cares for himself, he loves you. He may not be a fighter, but seeing you in danger flips a switch. He turns from a teddy bear to a warrior in zero seconds .

💌Zuhura Neiseiyo

SWEET PROBLEMS

Why Every Woman Should Make Her Man Work For It‬

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‪There are a couple of facts that we would all be better off accepting. There is no such thing as running away from pain and suffering . we only trade in one unpleasantry for another. And two, the only way to be happy is to view certain unpleasantries as a form of pleasantness ; not all, as some situations are horrible no matter how you look at them. But because we cannot escape feeling uncomfortable indefinitely, we have to figure out a way of not taking uncomfortability, pain, suffering, sadness, to mean unhappiness.‬
‪As many of you I’m sure have come to accept the fact that we’re both designed and destined to work our way between one problem and the next, living a life you can be proud of comes down to simply accepting that things are never going to be just the way you want them to be, and accepting that the only happiness to be found is in finding solutions to the problems that will endlessly present themselves. That’s right. The only way to be happy is to work on fixing the problems you have. However, it’s not in the solution to those problems that you’ll find peace and content in, but in the work that it takes to come up with the solutions.‬
‪Everyone has problems.‬
‪They range from small and insignificant, to grand and debilitating. Being hungry or thirsty is a problem. Craving drugs and alcohol is a problem. Meeting a girl that isn’t head over heels for you from the start, is a problem. Figuring out how to make her fall in love with you, is a problem. Figuring out how to pay rent is a problem. Figuring out how to cover  bills is a problem. 
‪The only thing I can promise you is that you will never, ever, ever run out of problems. Accept it. Think about it for a bit if you have to, but then accept it. Even if you were to start living your dream life, you’d still have problems. Maybe better problems, but problems nonetheless. More importantly, and this one is usually the hardest for people to wrap their minds around, we like problems.‬
‪We hate them, but as soon as we overcome them, we love where they brought us. Problems, and finding it in ourselves to overcome them, are what make us better people. They’re what make us happy. But it’s more than just that. Take a second to imagine your life with no problems whatsoever. What would you do? You can tell yourself that you’d travel the world, that you’d have the time of your life, that you’d finally be at peace with yourself, finally be happy. Problem is that the future you’re dreaming of is an impossibility. No problems isn’t an option; it’s not on the menu. Human beings create problems where problems cannot be found. It’s in our DNA.‬
‪The way you approach, understand, accept and work on, or deny your problems, defines who you are as a person. It quite literally defines you as it defines the way you look at and live your life. The better you are at perceiving and solving your problems, the better off you will be in life. 
‪I’m talking about the fact that the best romantic life partners in the world, are those that can avoid getting drowned by their problems, and push themselves to work on coming up and implementing solutions. It’s these people, and only these people, that can be said to be happy. Not infinitely happy, because there is no such thing. But, they’re happy regularly enough to be worth keeping in your life.‬
‪Both men and women are complicated beings. However, the former , let’s be honest ;have had it much easier in life. Men have always had it easier. Sure, their dreams and aspirations more often than not ended up being their undoing ^ being given too many opportunities in life has had the opposite effect of making men believe they wouldn’t need to overcome their problems themselves. Or rather, inflated their egos so much that they assumed they’d be able to overcome anything that comes their way with ease ‘ which turns out isn’t always the case.‬
‪There are a lot of men out there (and don’t get me wrong, plenty of women) that don’t understand that overcoming the problems they face in life is what life’s all about. Again, in case you’ve forgotten, problems are unavoidable. You can’t hide or run from them forever, because they will find you and run you down. If you can’t ignore your problems forever, you either have to fix them, or fall victim to them.‬
‪Men need problems in their life to be happy.‬
‪That is always the case. Now ladies, don’t take this as a green light to drive your man nuts. What you have to understand is that you’re already a headache. Don’t get offended. Being in a relationship, for most men at least, is already difficult. And if it’s difficult, it can easily be interpreted as an unpleasantry. Love can be very unpleasant. But it can likewise be magical.‬
‪In fact, it’s overcoming the unpleasantries that allows true love to form. If your relationship is too perfect, then it isn’t real. It’s just not. One or both of you is allowing yourself to be ignorant to some facts. It’s having to work for something, work towards something ^ a common dream or hope ‘ that makes love worth it all. It’s the problems that being in a relationship create, that make the whole thing worthwhile.‬
‪Again, this is not to say that you ought to create problems , I know some girls seem to take pleasure in such activities. Problems present themselves regardless. You don’t need to push the envelope any further. At the same time, however, you can’t make things too easy for him. Why? Because the only way you can be making it easy for him, is if you’re making it difficult for yourself.‬
‪You’re pretending that the problems you’re feeling don’t exist. So while he’s ignorant to the fact that there’s a problem, you’re in the trenches. This won’t work out well for you guys. You’ll eventually crack and the whole thing will blow up in both of your faces. So then what the hell are you supposed to do?‬
‪You’re supposed to be an adult. When there’s a problem, speak your mind. Don’t blow things out of proportion, but be honest with yourself and with him. Don’t create issues where there aren’t any, and you’d be best to make sure that there really is a problem before sharing it, but when there is an issue, you need to deal with it together. Don’t give him everything he wants, because once you do, there won’t be anything left for him to want.‬
‪Don’t get into bed with him too quickly ,unless you want to.‬
‪Don’t come over to ‘Netflix & chill’ ,make him take you out on a proper date. Don’t chase him down all the time , let him do some chasing himself. Love is the answer. It’s the solution. However, you can’t come to a solution unless you first have a problem to solve. Give him the right problems, the little problems that keep you on his mind, that make him want to work for it, want to impress you, want to make you happy, and he’ll be there for you. Give him everything, and he’ll lose interest in you. Give him too many problems, and he’ll run for the hills. It’s a delicate matter for sure, but no one said love was easy. 

💌 Zuhura Neiseiyo

RIGHT MISTAKE..|

There Are No Mistakes In Love
Maybe you fell into the wrong person, wrong relationship, wrong time, wrong place. Maybe you gave everything to a connection you thought was real and permanent and you ended up alone. Maybe you trusted, shared your life, made a promise for better or worse to stand beside someone and they failed you. Maybe somewhere down the road you realized you weren’t ready for a relationship, couldn’t be the person you needed to be for someone else. Maybe you stood powerlessly as someone broke your heart into a million pieces. Maybe you’re just ready to give up on love altogether.
Wherever you are, I want you to know something—there are no mistakes in love.
The person you fell for, the one who disappointed, who cheated, who lied, who left? That person was placed into your life intentionally, for both a blessing and lesson to your future self. If you hadn’t met that person, hadn’t loved them, hadn’t trusted them, you wouldn’t have known the pain of brokenness. You wouldn’t have experienced the loss of love. You wouldn’t be as strong as you are right now.
The connection that failed over time? Without it, you wouldn’t recognize lasting love when it finally comes to you. You wouldn’t be able to see the difference between affection and commitment. You wouldn’t know who you are and what you deserve.
The promises that were broken? These taught you to be careful, to give your heart to someone who is genuine and will be there when push comes to shove.
The love you lost because you weren’t ready, because you couldn’t commit? This showed you what you needed, who you could be when the time was right, and how you have the power to hurt those around you, so you must always proceed with caution.
The broken heart you’ve learned to re-heal in time? The pain showed you your resilience, your strength, your capacity to forgive and open again. Without your broken heart, you would be naïve and foolish. Without your broken heart, you wouldn’t know the beauty of real love when it finally stumbles across your path.
There are no mistakes in love, only moments where you learn, grow, and rebuild.
Every break in your path teaches you something, shows you what love can be, shows you what you deserve, shows you that you must not settle for less when it comes to matters of the heart.
So often we think our failed relationships mean we’ve wasted our time. We believe that since we were with the wrong person or in the wrong relationship, we’ve made such a terrible mistake.
But there are no mistakes.
You let someone in. You loved. You gave your heart. You were happy, for a period of time. And that’s not a mistake, no matter the outcome.
You cannot live your life in regret, wishing you could go back and press the ‘rewind’ button, wishing you could start over and unlove some people. Every kiss, every date, every relationship you were in had a purpose, even if it became nothing in the end.
You grew into a new person, you strengthened your heart, you cared for someone outside of yourself—and that’s beautiful, despite the outcome.
There are no mistakes. Just connections that failed, just people who weren’t right for you, just relationships that didn’t work out. But this is no reason to feel defeated.
You opened yourself, you let someone in, you were vulnerable. And this is one of the most powerful and incredible things you can do.
Don’t regret the way you loved.
Don’t look back and wish you could change parts of your past or erase time. Because time wasn’t lost, is never lost in loving.
Every moment you open yourself, every moment you decide to be real and fragile and emotional with someone is a gain. You gain knowledge, strength, kindness, passion, heart, and a sense of self.
And that can never, ever be a mistake.

💌Zuhura Neiseiyo.

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MEEK

I have no love interests in my life but that doesn’t scare me and doesn’t mean one day I won’t have that again. And perhaps then, I will be comfortable enough with myself. I had so many things to discover on my own and I needed to go through that process by myself. I have learned to be comfortable alone without guilt or fear of scrutiny from others. It has opened so many more doors and allowed me to truly grow into the person I always knew I was capable of becoming. ‪It gives me a chance to think about things, to tell myself where I’m going wrong in life and to compliment myself on little achievements. It helps me take things one step at a time. I know that I will not be alone forever and look forward to the day when I can share my life with someone I will love. But for now, the person I most want to lean on for security, for strength and for comfort is myself. It’s the healthiest relationship I have ever had. ‬
💌Zuhura Neiseiyo

•ADRENALINE .

Sitting in this hospital bed made finally made me think about a few things ….You know realisation will only hit you at your weakest point ,or let’s just say at that moment when you have nothing firm to think about .

Ever thought about it ?

The adrenaline ?

What is it or who is it ?why do we experience it ?.

Well according to normal description ..Adrenaline is termed as a substance produced in the body when you are excited,afraid or angry .It makes the heart beat faster and increases your energy and ability to move quickly ….

What’s zuhura’s description…….To me Adrenaline is a person who corrupts your mind and makes you think in some type of way for a short period of time and brings about excitement which doesn’t last .

Okay okay …what made you think of that huh ?

I know that question even I can’t answer that but maybe an experience is what is able to define certain reactions .

Have you ever been soo drawn to a person that even if they aren’t physically close to you ,you still get the tingly feeling each time you think about them???Now that’s adrenaline .

You know that person that makes you over think things sometimes ?Things that even you wonder how you came about to do them ??now that’s adrenaline .

Ever just been soo distracted by just thinking about someone ?if they felt the same way about you ?if they even think about you as much as you think about them ?if they get this ear to ear smile too ??I know right ?That’s your adrenaline right there.
Find it because you will only feel this adrenaline once in your whole lifetime .💘
💌Zuhura Neiseiyo

••ALPHA

How To Love An Alpha Girl‬

‪An alpha female is strong as hell. She has a great group of friends, has self confidence, knows what she wants and goes after it with no hesitation. She is fierce and doesn’t want to be tamed.‬
‪Don’t try to change her. Don’t try to turn her into something she is not. She was not made to sink and to bend. She was made to swim and fly. She was made to shine so brightly. So don’t even attempt to dim her blinding light.‬
‪Know that she does not need you. She does not need you to be happy or to feel fulfilled. But she loves you. She wants you. She chose you. And trust me, she had a lot of options.‬
‪So love her back.‬
‪Show up for her when you can tell that she needs you but won’t necessarily tell you. Show up when she is silent at night and you know something is bothering her. She is not made of steel even though she thinks she is. She is going to break sometimes. She is going to tear. She is going to crash.‬
‪Don’t you dare give up on her when she gives up on herself. Don’t turn your back on her. Yes, she doesn’t need you. But she will want you to be there. She will want you to show her that you give a damn. She will want you to show her that you won’t go anywhere. That you actually live up to your promises.‬
‪Don’t act like she’s your possession or prize. She is a human being. Treat her like one.‬
‪Know that she is a go getter. Know that she is a strong woman. She is resilient. She isn’t with you for fun, or for a fling. She is with you for the real deal. She is with you because she sees something good in you. She is with you because she sees a future. Because you are someone special. And she deserves something special. She deserves someone special.‬
‪She won’t take shit from you. She won’t take your crap, your games, or your nonsense. She is not going to put up with that. She knows her worth. She knows her heart and her soul and she knows that she deserves someone who can give her the world.‬
‪Be honest with her. Tell her how you feel. Don’t beat round the bush. Don’t hide from your feelings and from what your heart is telling you. Be a good man. Be a decent man and be a better man for her and for her future.‬
‪If you feel your feelings are fading don’t stick around. If you feel like your heart is slowly distancing itself from hers, leave. Don’t wait. Don’t lie to her. She is strong enough to handle your leaving. She is strong enough to handle your wreckage.‬
‪Oh and if you break her heart? She won’t ever take you back again. She won’t ever look at you in the same light. She won’t ever smile at you in the same way again. But she will move on. She will persevere. It’s what she’s good at. Surviving and growing and blooming.‬
‪She will survive without your love. Believe me, she will do more than just survive. She will do so much more. Without you.
💌 Zuhura Neiseiyo.

♢IMBALANCE .•

Refrain from anger ,and forsake wrath.

Sonetimes the story might be long but the words very short.It’s not that we run out of things to say ,it’s just that the pain that comes with emitting the words sometimes can be suicidal. 

I have always lived by the phrase “don’t judge others so as not to be judged ” but it dawned on me that people need to be judged so that they can sort of reform or change to a better person /srate. 

The pages of my notebook seem too little to even fill the remorse I have for myself and those around me .At one point I began to question why the negatives will always collide with my daily occurrences  till I gave up on seeking an answer because it was becoming a norm as per say .I even thought karma was paying me a visit for all the wrongs I have done in the past but then again, Did I at one point make such a terrible mistake or crime unworth forgiveness to deserve the harsh reality .

As a youth you’d expect that life would offer you the best on it’s plate because let’s just say you’re on your mid steps to adulthood boy was I wrong .Expecting they say is the beginning of all adventures and disappointments .I’d tend to think so .When you throw yourself to the world in one swing you’d expect it to hold you or maybe catch you to some point ,but the world is the world and it will always Let you go so that you can fall into the hands of another one called lessons .

 You know that one point in time you were about to do something and your conscience kept telling you “no don’t do it “Remember? Yes.That was the time regret was beconning to you and you glady responded to the call.Sometimes you’ll end up being someone you never at one point dreamt of becoming. Sometimes it’s good and other times its for the worst the ultimate result depends on you.If you end up changing for the good embrace and keep taking steps to a better tomorrow. If you happen to change for the worst well there’s alot bargaining on that. You can either choose to live that way or you  can choose to correct yourself. 

Correction is the hardest part because it entails acceptance of the person you currently are.It’s not easy, granted. Most of the time people will judge you and point fingers to the things that are no longer the same about you .Truth is your surrounding is afraid of change but that’s the beauty of it. If other people are seeing the wrong in your change then you need to accept it and seek a solution to better yourself. It’s not easy but the end result is worth it .

You need to have a positive circle in your life. One that motivates you and seeks for you to be a better and productive person in life. One that reminds you of the goals you have set to achieve in life.In all honesty there is absolutelyno need of having a hundred friends to go clubbing with and none at all to do business or investment with .If you find yourself in such a situation just know that alot is lacking in your life, And by alot I mean ALOT.Collapsing back and forth between who’s right and wrong for you is also a big problem .First things first, real friends don’t and will never need justification. Your will know your true friends by the way they act and behave with or without you being around them .They will always push you to your success at all costs and support you all the way.If you make wrong friends and end up with the wrong people let’s just says it’s God’s way of helping you realise that you’re at the wrong level and you need to be elsewhere in life. 

I’m saddened by the death of one of my friends who died trying to commit arbotion.My question being who’s fault is it ??Should I blame the girl for not thinking things through and making a better decision? ?The father of the child for not supporting  the mother ??The parents to the girl for condemning her ??or just the society for judging her for being pregnant at a young age ??For a moment I was so bitter with her because I thought the decision was made on impulse but then again after coming to know that it was her boyfriend who pushed her to get it done because he continously kept denying  the respossibility ,I just let go off all the bitterness. But my question again, why would you let a man oppress you so much? Why would you let the utterance of one person determine your fate? ?Is it even worth it ?What happened to children are a gift from God? ?Has it no meaning at all ??Even if she approached her parents with the news,What’s the worst they could do ??I don’t think death would have been part of it. But then again it’s one’s own choice to allow other people’s influence in their life .

What am I trying to say ??Own your choices and decisions. Don’t let other people dictate how you going to live and what choices you’re going to make. You’re a human being. You have emotions and feelings towards certain things that needs to be respected iregardless of whether they favour their thoughts or not .Make solemn vows to oneself that you will attain all the respect that is worth you and more .You have only one life and the moment that kicks in you’ll definitely view things differently. 

For ladies even the Bible says and I quote “it is not good that man should be alone. I will him a helper fit for him” ..it says helper not slave. So if the person you are with is not fit for you, you need to make that choice and step to a better view with better light .You are not by any way obligated to stay by a man’s side .It is by CHOICE.

Find someone who respects you and values you.Your body is a temple and don’t let in a man who doesn’t take the time to worship you. One who sees a better tomorrow with you by his side. You were not brought to this world to be tortured or by any means be a man’s punching bag .Violence is not your portion. Learn to want more in life .To be loved ,respected, acknowledged and alot more .Your worth is non-defined.How you Carry yourself Is the automatic reciprocate of what you get from those around you.

 Love is crazy thing, even suicidal. I’m not saying don’t try, All I’m saying is be careful and don’t let looks deceive you. There’s always more to a person than what you see.Imbalance of one’s person is what is non-satisfying. Find the centre point you need in your life to attain that balance. If it’s in education, In love, with parents, friendso or whatever It is.That balance enables your support system to always remain firm.Now seek to attain it and condemn that imbalance. 

Just rejoice in hope,be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer and you’ll attain It..

@_that_chiq_zuhura _

•FELICITY•

They say you never know what you have until it’s gone ,,well I choose to say you exactly knew what you had but let it go .
If you loose someone because of your own mistake ,you have to known it and accept you made the mistake 😅 But if you did nothing wrong ,you have every right to walk away from that present situation .Clearly you don’t hurt the people you love ,but somewhere somehow you are going to trip and make that mistake .Good thing is most of this situations are not planned for ,you just find yourself in a fix .Think twice before you react to such a moment .
So people keep asking why I’m always taking about love issues..it’s not that I don’t have something else to talk about ,it’s just that I take a special interest to this kinda talk .
So lemi give you random situations that took my keen interest ,:
One )There’s this girl who’s dedicated all her life to making her man happy .They’ve been dating for at least three years.She’s Made sure that he lacks nothing emotionally .Funny thing is this guy doesn’t even appreciate what he’s getting . He’s ashamed to even walk with her in public.He introduces her to his hommies as his friend .He doesn’t want his parents knowing that he’s dating this girl .He claims he’s keeping it low key but the real truth is he’s keeping everything nonexistent .Because the girl loves him so much she just lets it go. What this chiq doesn’t know it’s that she’s being used because the guy has someone else that he is more comfortable with.So apparently one day she bumps into the ongoing conversation on her “boyfriend’s” phone and finally gets to know what’s going on .The supposed guy was asking this other girl to go with him this weekend to meet his parents .Heartbreaking yeah ??definately .She was so broken ,so very much that she just picked her bag and left without a word .”A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves you a thousand moments of regret,”she said that to herself .The guy later realized what had happened because when he got back he found his phone on that particular conversation .And that’s how it all ended .He didn’t even bother going to find out how she was doing .This girl eventually committed suicide after so many months of depression.After sometime the guy found out this other girl wasn’t loyal .It then dawned on him how lucky he was to have had what he had .But regret comes later they say.
Now my question ..:was it worth it for the girl to take her own life because of a man ???because of a love gone ??why would someone knowingly waste another person’s time ??Is it human to keep someone hoping for something that won’t even come to be? How much does it cost to tell the truth ??

Two)There’s this loyal guy who’s chiq is almost acting like a bad bitch .She has a sugar daddy ,I know right .She’s just a gold digger so to be precise .She had this ego and pride that doesn’t take correction .She’s too defensive with everything she does .So she has a mr.right alright ,but just because he’s broke she feels like there’s need to go out and look for more .She even plays prostitution for two weeks but no one finds out .The sugar daddy is an Alahji.You know ,He spoils her with gifts ,new clothes ,to her surprise she even got a new car .so you know how life can be funny ,and how coincidences just happen ,this was just one of them .The guy has his birthday so his friends decide to throw him a party .A surprise party though .They invite his girl but ofcos she had to be busy ,nevertheless the party is still arranged .On the D-day they pick him up and take him to the club after escaping all his questions on where they were taking him .So they finally arrive at the club ,and it’s all merry .Ofcos a big part of him is disappointed that she didn’t come even after she was invited ,I mean con’on it’s your man’s birthday it’s the least you could do.He steps out to go the men’s room and on his way guess what ??He sees his girl sitting on a guy’s lap arms around his neck .He’s pretty old and that throws him off .You know There’s no way in the world you can unsee something .So he takes a few steps and approaches the girl.Shock of a lifetime the girl claims not to even know him ,she even calls for security to throw him out.i was expecting something different though .Like she’d feel guilty and apologise but no she didn’t .So the guy leaves his birthday party half done ,Broken ,destroyed,humiliated and in tears .Two weeks pass and finally the girl comes to pick up her things from the guy’s place.She finds him in bed ,house is a disaster ,he hadn’t even been eating .His condition is just so bad.When the girl enters the bedroom ,He takes her hands in his and says to her,”I’m willing to forget it all just promise to leave him and come back with me”.The chiq stands there wordless and for a moment he almost thought she was going to say yes.To his surprise she speaks .But he even regrets ever asking her that question after he heard her response.”You have all the traits I want in a man.God knows you’re my heaven sent but you just can’t give me the life I want and deserve .You are too poor  for me”.Those words left him cursing right there under his breathe.A few years down the line she’s HIV+ but is rich.She has no one to spend all this money with because even the babies she would have had are all flushed out.She’s lonely and unloved all because she wanted to be rich .All the men in her generally just wants sex from her nothing personal So in the ,this is what her life turns out to be …..Now I ask .:is it worth it ??To give up a good love for the sake of money ????would you rather have the whole world to yourself and loose everything that’s of real value?What happened to building each other as a couple ??Being there for one another until they make it through in life ??Most importantly when did the love of money become so strong ?How does forgiveness come so easy and yet not accepted??Why would you give up something that makes you happy for something so little ???Damn it people !Money comes and goes and it can never buy you happiness .unless it’s food ,haha lol .

Three)There’s this cripple chiq so inlove with her guy.They love each other so much and it’s almost like the perfect couple.The guy is always there for her.He loves her regardless of her state .He even has someone to take care of her when he’s not around .He helps her get her self-esteem back when she feels low and useless .He even promises to marry her when the time comes.But you know how fate plays tricks on you ,well it does with her .She’s able to get her ability to walk again and ofcos everyone is all happy and mellow until her attitude changes .She starts going out waay too often .She comes home late.She starts bringing guys home when her boyfriend is not around and with time it becomes a regular behaviour .He  is an introvert so he feels like she’s doing something wrong ,of which she is but he’s   Hoping that maybe she’ll come around .Time goes by and she’s still the same .He’s getting tired of her behaviour and when he talks to her ,All she can afford to say to him is that he is being boring .And that she should not be controlled .it definately hurts his ego but he decides to let it go .After a while he comes home to find a party Going on at his house without his knowledge.He walks in turns the music off and asks everyone to leave .They all leave except for the girl .She accuses him of embarrassing her before her friends and walks out on him .You know how they say karma is a bitch ,haha well it was waiting for her right there .she walks out and begins to run and unfortunately some drunk driver runs into her and there we are back to square one ,no actually I mean zero …,she’s back to hospital and this time her leg is amputated .Sad right ,,,But gues who comes when she needs someone to hold onto ??non of her drinking buddies but her boyfriend .well it’s not that sad after all ,she didn’t loose everything after all.They try again to rekindle what was lost ..well isn’t that something ??would you forgive her ?well they say love conquers all…quite paramount huh ,thought so too 

Four)So there’s the violent boyfriend .He’s been so unfair to his girlfriend .He cheats on her,always comes home drunk and he’s not even apologetic about it .You know a person can only take so much upto a certain point .She forgives him get beaten up ,forgives him again gets beaten up again and the cycle is pretty much continues back and forth.Everyone tells to leave him even his parents but her response always the same “you won’t understand .A friend of hers comes up with an idea that they should take him to rehab that maybe it would help him change.Little did she know .She goes home that night very excited and all to tell him of the found solution .Quick guess you thought he’d go along with it right ??haha me too.so she begins to tell him .She can’t clearly read the expression on his face until a slap lands on Her left cheek.Before she can even bring herself to comprehend  what is happening…He pounced on her beating her like crazy cursing under his breathe that she’s calling him disordered .He didn’t realize what he was doing until he realized that she’s no longer screaming .Dead ??yes .He stood and just kept rubbing his eyes to confirm the lifeless body of his girlfriend .Regret comes later right ??if only she left huh ?if only he went to the rehab ?if only she listened to everyone ???But that’s just all there is to it .the if’s.He later got arrested ofcos but what help was that ?once life is gone it’s gone . I’m still thinking if she made it out alive would she have  forgiven him again ??Guess we’ll never never know .
There’s a difference between being  inlove and being stupid .Both look alike because love will make you do stupid things ,yeah but be alittle wise along the way .If somethings not good for you walk away from it before it consumes and destroys you. Before anyone else you come first ,You are your first priority and don’t lie to yourself .There’s no one in this world who can replace you right ??That should tell you that you’re an important element .The best there is and  non-replaceable .So think twice before you put anyone before you .

FORGIVENESS💧

I had to forgive someone who wasn’t even sorry. That’s not being soft that’s called strength.
Pages of my dairy fill with the pain and tears from All the hurting my soul is going through. I Melisa live to tell a story of edges of how blood makes people relatives but loyalty makes them one family.

Being raised by not so loving parents seemed to always bring out the best in me, because even if we don’t admit it, having little support makes you struggle alittle more to see yourself through life so that your children may not go through what you went through being brought up.

But then again, what if the person you want to make life better for is not even worth the struggle? I’m not saying I’m ungrateful but with so much resentment how can I genuinely help you out when I’m in a limbo you created for me. You snatched my life away from me. So how can I help you and yet you destroyed me.? But I remember there’s something called forgiveness.

In one way they say that time heals all wounds. That with time you’ll forget, you’ll heal and life will get better. How true is this? ? I tend to think it’s one hundred percent true, but hey this is just my own opinion. Pain changes people. This is a truth that cannot be denied. The truth can be avoided but not denied. A human is psychologically created to endure pain. No matter how sweet and pure and noble your heart is, you’ll meet disappointments, you’ll meet people who will crush you, people who bring your future dreams to an extinction, people who will hate you for absolutely no reason. And it’s normal, it’s very much normal because you are human. You will hurt, you will cry, you will be broken, depressed and all those sad emotions you hear of, you will experience them. Let it hurt, let it bleed,let it heal and let it go. I know they say that every action deserves an equal reaction, but then again, what is better, to hold the resentment or to let it go and live In peace?

As much tempting as revenge may be. You don’t need to. You’re a better human than that.

You are human and when you decide to go get back at someone, you just openly give us a definition of who you are. That you’re mean. That you can make another person’s life uncomfortable for them for the bad they did to you as long as it makes you feel good or happy . It shows how little you value human worth. It’s you making life a gamble, of do me wrong I’ll hurt you or pay back in return. There’s more to life than just being angry at another person and wasting soo many days being sad and sobbing that you could be smiling. . . How much does forgiveness cost? ?? Because seriously I feel like I would offer It to everyone, so that I can attain the perfect picture of a peaceful and loving home ((my continent) ) …. But someone’s voice plays in my head reminding me that perfection cannot be achieved.

I stand to be corrected. This future I do not accept it. We can redirect this. How you ask? ?

Learn forgiveness. It costs nothing to just forgive someone who did you wrong. You know why it costs nothing, because someone already paid a price for that atonement done. If God’s son carried everyone’s sins In order for God, Allah, The creator, Almighty, to forgive us, then holding resentment is so much so a sin. You cannot be the jurisdiction of someone whose fault was already paid for.
Eight years ago I left my home because it was what I would call an unfit environment for my development and growth. I do not hold any resentment towards my parents for the choices they made, I opt to forgive and forget for maybe it was just a moment of human weakness.

I had barely finished my schooling. I was two years away from my graduation. One afternoon, after my last class, I received a call from my mother saying that she needed me home urgently. Because she is my parent I would definitely rush home to see what was wrong for the call seemed urgent. I packed a few clothes after reaching my house and hopped on the next immediate bus that would take me home, for I would hate it if anything went wrong and I hadn’t arrived yet.

An hour later or so, I was a few steps from home. My paces gradually increased and finally i arrived home. Anxiety was getting better of me because it had been such a long time since I had gone home. I summoned courage and went in.

Met by new faces plus my parents, I was for a moment releaved that nothing was wrong. After greeting everyone I took a sit. My mother without wasting time introduced us all. This was quite unusual because she hardly used to do this. William and Daniel, two foreign men in our house. For a moment i thought they were here for business or something close to that, but the moment my father begun to speak, I almost wished the earth would swallow me whole.

My own father, biological father was giving me out for marriage at twenty years to a 50 year old guy without even my consent. I wished that it was all a dream. I took couple sips of water to bring myself to awakening. But gues what?

That was the truth of it all. My parents, my own blood parents chose money over my education, over my life, over my choices, over my dreams which I had constantly shared with them. So tell me how do you get back from this?? How do you begin accepting the only decision made being presented to you.

You know it hurt so much that your own parents place a price over your head. Its like they’ve lost all hope in you. Its like you’ve become the broken branch of a tree that needs to be done away with. It pained me so much.

Didn’t they Care about my education? Didn’t they want me to progress and have my own life? ? Was I of no value to them? Were they that desperate? Is this what life had in store for me? I had countless nights of sleep, my life had come to a stand still. But thanks to the friend I had, she strengthened me to get over it.
After sometime, I noticed that resentment was beginning to build up in my heart. I began to hate the people who brought me to this world, and that wasn’t right.

But what was the gain of the resentment? NOTHING. I repeat NOTHING.

After sometime of constantly reading the Bible, I came across this verse, ((Mark:11:25)) – Forgive them even If they are not sorry. I had to forgive them, because life becomes easy when you learn to accept an apology you never got.

Don’t let people upset you anymore. Its not worth it. If at anyone point you feel you need to hurt someone the same way they hurt you, remember that there is a God somewhere who doesn’t sleep and sees everything you’ve been through. Everything you’ve gone through and still is going through. Leave it to God because he knows, judgement and revenge is not for you. ((philippians 4:6))-in nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your request known to God. Sometimes the battles are not for you to fight. Thank God that you met and have such people in your life, that build up your faith in Him even more. ((Psalms 55:22))-cast your burden to God and He will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved. People that remind you to error is human and to forgive Is devine.

Am I bugging to someone ? Is anyone listening to me? Or am I just seeing things that no one else can see?? If no one has told you, I’m here to do so. You were put on this earth for so many reasons, being disrespected and looked down upon by people is not one of them.

Forget the hurt, forgive and let it go. Learn to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect or self worth.

God himself says in Joel 2:25-God can restore what is broken and change it into something amazing. All you need is faith.

If, on a single day, you suddenly came alive and chose to express who you truly are and to pursue what you truly desire of this life, let that day be today.

Forgive the people who hurt you emotionally, Those who destroyed you physically, forgive those who told you that you won’t make It in life, forgive those people who turned others against you, forgive those who hate you for no reason, forgive those parents who disappointed you instead of supporting you, forgive that life partner who left you after making a million promises, forgive that friend who promised to always hold your hand but left when things got tough, forgive everyone that brought hate resentment into your life, let it go and enjoy your life. Because you cannot change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their action.

You only live once, let the hurt go.

LEARN TO FORGIVE.

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Good day.